Thursday, April 28, 2011
What is love? What makes a good marriage?
She was stretched on her back beneath the pear tree soaking in the alto chant of the visiting bees, the gold of the sun and the panting breath of the breeze when the inaudible voice of it all came to her. She saw a dust-bearing bee sink into the sanctum of a bloom; the thousand sister-calyyxes arch to meet the love embrace and the estatic shiver of the tree from root to tiniest branch creaming in every blossom and frothing with delight. So this was marriage! She had been summoned to behold a revelation. Then Janie felt a pain remorseless sweet that left her limp and languid.
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"Her hair is NOT too show in the store"
ReplyDeleteLove is definitely not control or power over another, love is how janie felt with teacake, fast paced racing heart and smile that come along fast and stay for awhile.
Love is trying something new with out the fear of failure because you know the person you are with wont judge you because the can accept limitations on you for you are human.
Love is the one sole question & answer that man hasn't complete answered just yet, many have tried, many have failed. but people have put their personal opinions in what the think it is, but no one knows for sure...
ReplyDeleteBut i believe Love is; more than just a bond, or a connection. I believe its a deep personal understanding, for someone else. Being able to know what their feeling, at a single glance. Risking your very state of being, to make sure that that person is okay.
what makes a good marriage you ask? Three things. Trust, Faith, and Willpower.
ReplyDeleteWhat is love? Well my thoughts on love, revolve mainly around trust and knowing the one you love. Without those two traits, it may be hard to love. For example, as Joe Starks lies dying, Janie lets him know how he treated her so fairly. That she has no symphony for his death. "You done lived with me for twenty years and you don't half know me atall."
ReplyDeleteOverall, I agree with Mitchell, love is not about control, or who has more power, but knowing the person you love.
But how are you supposed to know who you love, if you dont completely have an understanding of what it is??
ReplyDeleteIn Their Eyes Were Watching God, Janie is not treated fairly. There is no reason she should be treated like crap. She was hit, and she was told what to do. A good marriage will not consist of verbal abuse. Joe is verbally abusing Janie by saying, "pop eyes at me wid yo' rump hangin' nearly to yo' knees!". Joe is making fun of how Janie looks. It's not right, we have feelings too. He could have said it in a way that wouldn't be so crucial to her feelings. A good marriage will consist of loyalty, acceptance, and happiness.
ReplyDelete"yeah, Janie, youse got yo' womanhood on yuh. so ah mout ez well tell yuh whut ah been savin' up for uh spell. Ah wants to see you married right away."
ReplyDelete"me, married? Naw, Nanny, no ma'am! Whut ah know 'bout uh husband?"
... she shouldn't have a husband picked for her. Janie should have the freedom to choose for her self who she wants to be with.and it definatly shouldn't be an old man that can barely move.
i agree with john love is some what a chose.but marriage can be and cant be like she didn't want to marry Jody and he treated her with no respect and if you love someone you would not abuse them in anyway
ReplyDeletelove is a feeling that we have and we use that feeling to show each other how we feel i believe that if we honestly love someone you never want to hurt them. There will never be a perfect "love" in fact its healthy to fight, because then you learn to cope with your differences. Or learn that you don't really love them like you thought you did, and may be it's time to move on to something different, find out what is right for you.
ReplyDelete"There are years that ask question and years that answer."
some believe in love some don't some win and some fail. Love can't be forced it has to come from the heart willingly. Melodye Smith Appel 1-11
"The years took all the fight out of Janie's face"
ReplyDeleteI agree with the previous post. Love is symbolically going to the end of the world for another person. It is being able to fight, but to never let it become physical. To never let it hurt somebody so bad that they wallow in self pity for the remainder of your marriage, or any sort prolonged amount of time. Love is not powering over another human. Love is not controlling others. Love will never be that way. It's just a distorted perception that society has brought upon us. Man has no more rights then women. Therefore men shall never treat a women like so and expect everybody to think it is love.
John has a point, when do you know to love someone,? But I believe you do not need to know the actually meaning of "love", considering it's more of a feeling
ReplyDeleteresponding to tori, your somewhat correct it is a feeling but in order to truely realize you love someone, you at least have to know what it is somewhat.
ReplyDelete"that night he ordered Janie to tie up her hair around the store. That was all. She was there in the store for him to look at. not those others."
ReplyDeleteLove is not something you control. you can't help who you fall in love with. you see someone and get to know them. you fall in love and you think you know the person so well. but as time goes on they become more worried and panicked that your going to leave them for someone else. they get jealous and start to change how they treat you. They start to become controlling and over protective. they start to distrust you. But if you love someone and are married to them, you have to trust them. you have to trust that they have self respect and their love for you is strong. If there is something wrong or you feel uncomfortable about something, you need to tell the one you love what is on your mind. Keeping things bottled up usually causes a person to snap and they hurt the one they love most. they cause their wife/husband to disrespect them and start to pull away. with marriage there are more tests you have to observe.
And you start to realize that by being with that special person more and more. Love is a feeling, and you grow to know it as your feelings grow too. Either it's from connecting, or getting hurt.
ReplyDeleteWhat is love? Love is 50% feeling and 50% actions. Janie first married Logan because she thought that when she got married she would immediately feel loved. Than she married Joe because he said all the right things at first and did all the right actions. But later he just wanted her to sit and look pretty( which is ok for some people but not her ) . When he died she met Tea Cake. She loved Tea cake and he loved her.He said stuff like " From now on you'se mah wife and mah woman and everything else in de world Ah needs" And by reading the book you can tell he ment it.
ReplyDeleteA good marriage is one where you understand each other and treat each other well. Janie and Tea Cake fought and argued but they worked through it because it was important to them.
I also agree with Tori. You need to know and understand you partner. Everybody is different and has different feelings so everybody can't be treated the same.
i agree with tori and natosha
ReplyDeleteNo one really knows what love is. Everyone has a different meaning and understanding about what love is. My definition of love is someone or something you can't live without. Once you have it in your life, you would die if it/they left. A lot of the time people make the mistake of saying they "love" someone, when they actually only really like them deep inside. They think they love them, but they don't. " 'You wants to be keerful 'bout who you marry, Mis' Starks. Dese strange men runnin' heah tryin' tuh take advantage of yo' condition.' 'Marry!' Janie almost screamed. 'Jo ain't mad time tuh git cold yet. Ah ain't even give marryin; de first thought' " Janie obviously had a lot of feelings for Joe. People had been bugging her about who she was going to marry next and Janie didn't want to think anything about getting married.
ReplyDeleteI think that Janie got forced to marry Logan Killicks but i don't think you be forced to marry somebody. I think you should marry somebody who you want to spend your life with and somebody you have a ton of feelings for and somebody you will never leave for anybody else. I think love and falling in love is different. Falling in love is when you start to like them a lot and start to develop feelings for them and loving them means like you wanna spend your life with them and you will always have feelings for them and it's somebody you will love forever.(:
ReplyDeleteJohn, *like*
ReplyDeleteI believe that we will never know what true love is, or how a perfect marriage will be like. Our world is so confused. (:
ReplyDelete"you'se de onliest in de world ah ever even mentioned gitting married tuh."
ReplyDeletelove is the feeling where you can be your true self with a person, and where you have the feeling of butterflies in your stomach whenever your with that person or know you will see that person soon. No matter what they have done you will still care for them, and you will put them above everyone else even yourself. You find all their little mistakes and silliness cute. That's what I think love is.
I agree with john when he says that what makes a good marriage is trust, faith, and willpower.
I *dislike* Sidney...
ReplyDeleteawhhhh, ): .
ReplyDeleteLove, is like how many licks it will take to the center of the tootsie pop. The world will never know.
ReplyDeletei kno the answer to that. its about 120.. so you cant use that
ReplyDeleteLove is something that you cant explain or look up on Google its something that you just know with the person you love and they love you back each and every person has to answer "What is Love?" for themselves and their answer is right to them and them alone
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